I bet you have heard of reverse psychology. Personally, at some point I heard my grandmother telling my mother to resort to reverse psychology if all else fails. But what is reverse psychology? Is it really effective? In the long run, is it a good discipline tool to use with our children?
What is Reverse Psychology?
Reverse Psychology is when you are trying to persuade your child to do something, you ask him to do the opposite. This is based on the concept that people typically reacts negatively to persuasion; so if you advocate him to do the opposite, you might actually get the response you want.
For example, you are trying to get your son eat vegetables you might say something like. ” I bet you can’t eat and finish those.”
Here is another example from The Simpsons where Homer is having a conversation with his mind after reading a parenting book:
- Homer’s Brain: Don’t you get it? You’ve gotta use reverse psychology.
- Homer: That sounds too complicated.
- Homer’s Brain: OK, don’t use reverse psychology.
- Homer: All right, I will!
Is Reverse Psychology Effective?
It works most of the time, as long as the other person doesn’t know you are trying to reverse him (see?!).
Is it a good parenting technique?
It is not good if its making your child look stupid already. And sooner or later he will find out you did try to manipulate him.
I think it is still much better to explain things to children. Make them comprehend why they have to do this and not that. Talk to them. They maybe young but they will understand.
So my answer to “Is Reverse Psychology a good form of parenting technique?” is NO. Forms of discipline must be applied consistently, and you just can not use reverse psychology often. It may do more harm in the long run to your child’s mindset. Talk to them. Honesty is still the best policy.
